During our divorce trial, my husband showed no emotion as he sought to end our 20-year marriage. Moments before the judgment was read, my 8-year-old niece stood up and asked the judge to show a video of what she had witnessed at home, shocking everyone in the courtroom.

I recounted Robert’s phone call, the coldness in his voice, his claim about irreconcilable differences and growing apart, while Patricia took notes with the focused attention of someone who’d heard similar stories many times before.

“How were your finances managed during the marriage?”

“Robert handled most of the investments and business decisions. I managed the household budget and day-to-day expenses, but he always said I didn’t need to worry about the big-picture financial planning.”

Patricia looked up from her notepad.

“Mrs. Gillian, do you have access to bank statements, investment accounts, tax returns, insurance policies?”

“Some of them. Robert kept most of the financial papers in his home office, but I have access to our joint checking account, and I know where he keeps important documents.”

“I need you to gather everything you can find before he changes passwords or restricts your access. In sudden divorce filings like this, there’s often financial planning that the other spouse isn’t aware of.”

“What kind of financial planning?”
“Hidden assets, transferred funds, undervalued properties. Mrs. Gillian, men don’t usually file for divorce without having their financial ducks in a row, especially when they’ve been married for over 40 years and there are significant assets involved.”

The suggestion that Robert had been systematically planning to leave me while I’d been completely unaware made my stomach clench with a combination of humiliation and anger.

“Mrs. Gillian, you mentioned that your granddaughter overheard conversations between your husband and a woman with yellow hair. Can you describe what she told you in more detail?”

I repeated Emily’s account of the secret meeting, the questions about money, Robert’s comments about my supposed inability to understand business matters.

“That sounds like he was meeting with a financial adviser or investigator, possibly someone helping him catalog assets or prepare for property division. Mrs. Gillian, I need to ask you directly. Do you think your husband is having an affair?”

The question hit me like cold water. In my shock about the divorce filing, I hadn’t considered the possibility that Robert was leaving me for another woman.

“I… I don’t know. He’s been working late more often recently, and there have been phone calls that he takes in private, but I assumed it was work-related.”