Then he blocked them.
Watching him protect me so cleanly, without drama, made me realize how abnormal my old life had been. Love wasn’t supposed to feel like a negotiation.
My parents went quiet after that.
For a while, life was peaceful.
Then, on a rainy Wednesday, my phone pinged with a new email from Vicki.
Shorter this time.
I’m not asking you to talk to Mom and Dad. I’m asking if you’ll talk to me. One coffee. Public place. If you say no, I’ll respect it.
I stared at it for a long time.
The difference wasn’t the request—it was the last line.
If you say no, I’ll respect it.
I didn’t know if she meant it. I didn’t know if it was another strategy. But it was the first time she’d offered me a choice without punishment attached.
I talked about it with my therapist. I talked about it with Rob. I talked about it with Grandma, who surprised me by not immediately telling me what to do.
“You can meet her if you want,” Grandma said. “But you don’t owe her access to your life. You only owe yourself safety.”
So I decided on something small.
I replied with boundaries.
One coffee. Public place. One hour. No parents. No guilt. If you bring them up, I will leave.
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